Valentine’s Day. It’s the most romantic holiday of the year. Usually (but not always), even people who spend most of their life saying that they can’t stand Valentine’s Day and that it’s a manufactured holiday change their turn about it once they find that perfect person. And, often, finding that perfect person comes hand in hand with wanting to spend the rest of their lives with that person. In 2013, six million people were expecting to be proposed to on Valentine’s Day (and that number was up from four million the year before). So how do you make your proposal stand out in a sea of Valentine’s Day “Will you marry me” offers? We have tips!
Tip One: No Romantic Dinner Proposals!
Here is a true story from the Jan Leslie staff. Our marketing communications director was at dinner with her then boyfriend (now fiancé) at a restaurant they loved. They were also regulars, so the wait staff had a familiarity with them. She mentioned (strongly hinted) while the waiter was at the table that this restaurant would be a lovely place for the proposal to happen. The waiter looked at her and said, “I don’t know. Maybe you want to really think about whether you want to be proposed to while you’re eating.” After she thought about it, she realized that it was a brilliant point! While the expected thing to do is to propose at dinner, you can do better than that! Plus, if your soon-to-be-betrothed is expecting a proposal and doesn’t get one at dinner, he or she may even more emotional when you surprise them later.
What to Wear to Propose: Romantic Hand-Carved Rose Cufflinks
When you’re looking to up the romance, these delicate floral cuff links are ideal. Detail is everything. Set in sterling silver, opt for old-school charm with white mother-of-pearl or be a little more mysterious with the black onyx version of this design. If you’re looking to be dapper, this design is also available as a lapel pin. If you’re planning on proposing at a black tie event, you can also obtain this design as cufflinks with matching tuxedo studs.
Tip Two: Remember You’re Only Doing This Once (with this Person)
In the current day and age, we’re not going to pretend as though this may not be your second (or even third) go-round. Practice makes perfect though! Just take the time to really stop and think about the fact that you’re only going to ask this person to marry you once. That means that you should take the time to pick something that stands out. Give yourself an afternoon to really just sit and think and plan a great proposal. You want a moment that you’ll remember forever. That requires some planning behind it.
Tip Three: You Have All the Information You Need
Before you potentially become overwhelmed at the idea that you need to create a “killer” proposal, remember that you actually have all of the information that you need. You know what locations in your city or hometown are meaningful to the two of you as a couple. You know where your first date was, where she loves to have coffee, where her apartment was when you first met her. If you just give yourself the (calm) time and space that you need to think through these things, you’ll be able to pick a special and amazing location that isn’t a dinner table!
What to Wear to Propose: Heart and Horn Cufflinks
Let her know exactly what she’s getting – all of your heart and a little of your naughty side, too! These are Jan’s signature Valentine’s Day look for a reason. They playfully capture the essence of you – loving, adoring, caring but never quite ready to let go of the wild you within. And you shouldn’t have to – because she loves you for the entire person who you are!
Tip Four: Use Great Words
This is one of our favorites. As you’re asking her to marry you, quote a passage from a beautiful romantic book. You can’t go wrong with Shakespeare, but some of our other favorites include The Time Traveler’s Wife, The Giving Tree and anything by Pablo Neruda. Then, along with her (stunning) engagement ring, give her a copy of the book in which you’ve also written how much you love her. It’s that extra proposal touch that will take things from romantic to swooning.
Tip Five: Take a Selfie!
It doesn’t matter what age you are, one of the glorious things about our era is that you can capture your special moment forever. Don’t be afraid of the selfie – years later you will look at it and be grateful you captured the moment!